Gel Manicures…. How safe are they?

The perks of the now popular gel manicures are obvious to many of us.

For me it’s a no-brainer. Longer lasting nail color. Quick dry with no smudge issues. Less frequent visits to the nail salon.

What are the downsides?

I know that most of us have firsthand experience with a few of the downsides such as nail damage after improper removal technique and the price tends to be up to $40 more expensive than a basic manicure. But, there is a greater risk at hand…. a risk that the average gel manicure patron does not have in the forefront of their minds.

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Initially after the gel manicure was introduced the, research data was “inconclusive” regarding skin cancer. However, in more recent times more and more skin care experts are releasing statements alluding to the risk of skin cancer/nail cancer with repeated exposure to the UV light used for the gel manicure process.


LED lamps used to dry regular nail polish are different and don’t emit UV radiation.

I am a fan of the gel manicure since I usually go on average two days before the color would chip with a traditional manicure. I find that very annoying. So the convenience of the gel is quite appealing.

I was not ready to abandon the option without doing some digging.

What I found was a wide range of expert opinions and social commentary that I had to sift through.

NYU School of Medicine’s Dr. Chris Adigun (Assistant Professor of Dermatology) wrote an article in the Journal of the American Academy of Dermatology where she compared the damage sustained from the UV light used to dry the gel finish to skin damage from tanning beds. And therefore can increase the risk of cancer.

And certain skin cancers have been directly linked to UV light.

That definitely caught my attention.

As if that is not concerning enough, we also have to think about other effects such as premature aging and hyperpigmentation.

OK fine, still early in my research, it wasn’t far off from any previous concerns I had silenced after the first couple times I had gel manicures. Concerns that lay dormant but not erased.

I read elsewhere that when confronted about her publication, Dr. Adigun clarified her stance. “There is a risk, but the risk is small,” she says—and there’s certainly no reason to give up your gel manicures. Basically there is a huge difference in the amount of UV light exposure at the nail salon compared to a tanning bed.

Now I was confused, so the research continued. As did the gel manicures.


Another concern I found is that no one knows what is the proper dose of these harmful rays because the UV lamps are not regulated.

Also, because of the its lasting durability, the gel can camouflage nail brittleness, thinning and cracking.

A 2012 report from Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, estimated that it would take 250 years of weekly gel manicures to equal the exposure of one session with an FDA-approved UV phototherapy lamp. A device widely considered safe by most doctors.

This is good right?

But, (of course there’s a but), “There are certain people who are more susceptible to skin cancer than others, and unfortunately you don’t know you are one of those people until you develop [it],” explains Adigun.

Dr. Adigun’s advice:

  • Snip the ends off a pair of UV-protective gloves and slip them on before you put your hands under a UV lamp, or slather your hands with a broad-spectrum sunscreen after the nail technician has completed the massage and shaped your nails with a file.
  • Or simply limit your exposure by alternating gels with traditional polish or having a gel manicure just once a month. Whatever precautions you choose, make sure to inspect your hands between applications of polish, which can mask problems below the nails.

Finally, I went to what could be considered the authority on Skin cancer for their take on gel manicures.

The Skin Cancer Foundation’s Position Regarding UVR-Emitting Nail Lamps


New York, NY (March 7, 2013) – Research has shown that ultraviolet (UV) radiation-emitting devices are carcinogenic to humans. Although studies have shown that the skin cancer risk associated with UVR-emitting nail lamps for gel manicures is very low, it is not insignificant*. The risk, according to anecdotal research, is greatest for squamous cell carcinoma (SCC), the second most common skin cancer. An estimated 700,000 cases of SCC are diagnosed each year in the US, resulting in approximately 2,500 deaths. SCC is mainly caused by chronic UV exposure and is very common on the hands and around the fingernails.

obsessed-glitter-gel-nails-also--large-msg-133029060432If you must get a UV-gel manicure, The Skin Cancer Foundation recommends applying sunscreen to your hands beforehand.


The bottom line here is – you can protect your hands from skin cancer, as well as wrinkles, brown spots and other signs of aging, by applying a moisturizing sunscreen with an SPF of 15 or higher to your hands at least every two hours throughout the day.



At this point I still remain a fan of the gel manicure. But my health is of great value, so don’t look at me upside-down when you see me at the nail salon trying my best to explain to the lady who speaks Cambodian (or Thai or Vietnamese…Chinese?, I never know) why I absolutely must apply my sunscreen after the hand massage before I plop them under the lights! Two minutes of aggravated paranoia is worth preventing skin cancer while still maintaining cute nails.


Tips for Healthy Nails


Cuticle care is important. Massaging the cuticle stimulates healthy nail growth

Biting nails or aggressive cleaning under the nail can cause stress fractures and breaks. Always keep a nail file handy.

Use rubber gloves for household cleaners to protect against harmful chemicals that break the nail down.

Biotin is a great supplement for nails – there are treatments and lacquers that contain biotin so it can be applied directly on the nail.

Vitamin E is also great applied directly to the nails.

Hydrate after hand washing. Good nutrition and drinking a lot of water is key. Protein-rich foods are advised.

Do not use your nails as tools.

Wearing nail polish is protective to nails. Never skip base coat (most important) or top coat.

Nail strengtheners composed of keratin are useful to create a stronger nail, but not if discontinued, the nails return to normal composition. Best  results if used every 3 days.

A worn out peeling manicure is not only unflattering but encourages nail damage when you peel away at chipped nail polish. Most normal manicures need removal after one week.



DC carnival is now an ADD ON to Baltimore carnival and it’s being held in July….sigh

Celebrity Slim-Down Secrets

From Mariah Carey to Kirstie Alley, find out how some of your favorite stars shed some serious weight.

Though Mariah Carey was thrilled to learn she was pregnant with twins last year, the pop diva (who’s married to Nick Cannon) wasn’t quite as happy about the 70 pounds she gained during pregnancy. (12/12/10)


Six months after giving birth to babies Moroccan and Monroe, 41-year-old Mariah became a spokesperson for the Jenny Craig weight-loss program, which she credits with helping her lose her last 30 pounds. (Those first 40, she says, was just water weight.) “I feel better in every way,” Mariah told USA Today in November. “To me, it’s mind, body and soul. I was in a bad place physically during my pregnancy.” (11/9/2011)





“American Idol” Season 6 winner Jordin Sparks never had a huge problem with her weight. She just wanted to feel a bit better about herself on the beach. “I liked what I saw in the mirror before. It just didn’t work in a bikini,” she told Shape magazine over the summer. (02/09/08)





The 21-year-old hasn’t revealed how much weight she’s lost, but did tell Shape how she did it: “I started slowly by walking the path around my house, and then eventually walking a little bit faster, and then actually going and climbing up the mountain [near my home]. So it was literally a mountain to climb, but I did that.” She also began working with a personal trainer, taking Zumba classes with her mom, and making small changes to her diet. (05/19/11)





Actress and talk show host Ricki Lake once topped out at a whopping 260 pounds. After losing more than 130 pounds in 2007, Ricki’s weight began creeping up again in recent years. (05/09/2011)




Thanks to her stint on Season 13 of “Dancing With the Stars,” this past fall, during which she made it to the final 3, the 43-year-old says she’s lost 16 inches and four dress sizes and is now a svelte size 4. But can she stay that way? (11/09/11)







Kirstie Alley has been publicly battling the bulge for years. The once thin former “Cheers” star eventually ballooned to more than 200 pounds and even starred in a short-lived TV series called “Fat Actress” before becoming a spokesperson for Jenny Craig in 2005 and dropping 75 pounds. A confident Alley debuted her new body in a bikini on “The Oprah Winfrey Show” the following year, but soon fell off the diet wagon. (03/02/05)




Like Ricki Lake, Alley credits her time on “Dancing With the Stars” earlier this year with helping her slim down, thanks to its rigorous rehearsals. “My dress is half the size it was when we started,” the 60-year-old said on the season finale in May (06/22/11)








Actor Seth Rogen made a name for himself portraying the portly slacker in the 2007 Judd Apatow comedy “Knocked Up.” (04/10/08)





But when he landed the lead role in “The Green Hornet,” Seth knew he had to slim down. Seth worked out with celebrity trainer Harley Pasternak and eventually shed 30 pounds. (01/10/11)









“American Idol” Season 3 breakout star Jennifer Hudson, who went on to win a Best Supporting Actress Oscar for her role in “Dreamgirls,” was previously a size 16. (12/04/06)





After joining the Weight Watchers program in 2010 and becoming a spokesperson for the company, the 29-year-old shed a whopping 50 pounds and is now down to a size 6. “I don’t really like to count pounds,” she said on “The Oprah Winfrey Show” earlier this year. “I look at it by age. I feel like I gained 10 years of my life back.” (06/14/11)







Kevin James made a name for himself as the husky delivery truck driver on the working-class sitcom “King of Queens,” but in real life, the actor, who eventually weighed nearly 300 pounds, wasn’t comfortable with his expanding waistline. (06/24/10)





The “Zookeeper” star told David Letterman in January that the scale was his simple wake-up call. “I got on the scale and it read 290 pounds,” he admitted. “Then I realized, I’m only ten pounds away from 300!” After breaking the 300-pound mark, he made some lifestyle changes and lost more than 40 pounds. (06/20/11)







“The Muppets” star Jason Segel admitted during a Letterman appearance in June that he tipped the scales at nearly 245 pounds earlier this year after indulging in lots of local cuisine while shooting in New Orleans. (03/17/09)





The 31-year-old “Bad Teacher” co-star explained that some unflattering photos his assistant snapped of him inspired him to start eating better. He’s since lost 30 pounds. Jim Spellman/ – June 20, 2011








Fitness Tips For Shaking Up Your Cardio Routine

Do you keep looking for a new workout? If you’re bored with your current one, try to tweak it a little.

Use our three-pronged routines to keep yourself amped

There’s a reason triathletes look so fabulous: By combining three events, they get the results of each—a swimmer’s cut shoulders, a cyclist’s toned legs, and a runner’s lean physique. But you don’t have to go hardcore for those perks. These four cardio workoutplans will freshen up your workout, and you can finish each in 30 minutes or less. Do one three times a week on nonconsecutive days, says Karl Scott, a private trainer at The Sports Club/LA in New York City.

Four Fitness Tips:




The Triathlon Trainer
A triple play that gets fast results.
Do it: Pedal a bike at a moderate pace—an effort level of 5 or 6 (you’re working hard but can still carry on a conversation)—for 10 minutes. Next, run either outside or on a treadmill for 10 minutes, again at an effort level of 5 or 6. Last, head to the pool or a rowing machine and put in 10 minutes at the same effort level.


The Full-Body Toner

Combines strength moves and cardio for maximum fat-blasting

Do it: Jump rope for 30 seconds and rest for 30 seconds; do 5 sets. Then perform 2 sets of this 5-minute body-weight circuit: squats, pushups, step-ups, dips, and crunches (find instructions at as many reps of each exercise as you can in 1 minute, moving to the next without rest. Finish with a 10-minute jog at a medium pace.


The Power Booster



This interval workout builds speed, power, and lower-body tone.

Do it: Pick three cardio machines with adjustable resistance and do the following on each: Warm up for 2 minutes at a medium pace. For the first interval, raise to max effort by upping the resistance and/or incline, keeping the pace steady; go for 30 seconds, then recover at warmup pace for 2 minutes. Do 2 intervals per machine. Finish on one machine before moving to the next.



The Calorie Scorcher

Challenges your cardiovascular system and strengthens your body.

Do it: Choose any three cardio machines. On the first one, go for 10 minutes at an effort level of 5 or 6. Move immediately to the next machine and go hard, at an effort level of 9 or 10—you should just barely be able to huff out words—for another 10 minutes. Finally, switch to the last machine and do 10 minutes at a 5 or 6 effort.


Superbug Strain of Gonorrhea, STDs Just Got Scarier

Superbug — the term is scary for a reason! In fact, there’s a “superbug” strain of gonorrhea discovered in Japan that is immune to known forms of treatment for the sexually transmitted disease.  This new superbug, dubbed H041, has actually evolved to a point where previous forms of antibiotics have no effect on it whatsoever.  Each generation of gonorrhea gets gradually stronger and develops a resistance to antibiotics. Since this latest strain is immune to all previous forms, it gets labeled a superbug, and if an antibiotic that can treat it cannot be found, it may pose a serious health threat.


The strain was found to be extremely resistant to all cephalosporin-class antibiotics — the last remaining drugs still effective in treating gonorrhea.

Gonorrhea is a bacterial sexually transmitted infection and if left untreated can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease, ectopic pregnancy and infertility in women.

It is one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases in the world and is most prevalent in south and southeast Asia and sub-Saharan Africa. In the United States alone, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), the number of cases is estimated at around 700,000 a year.

According to The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, gonorrhea is “caused by Neisseria gonorrhoeae, a bacterium that can grow and multiply easily in the warm, moist areas of the reproductive tract, including the cervix (opening to the womb), uterus (womb), and fallopian tubes (egg canals) in women, and in the urethra (urine canal) in women and men. The bacterium can also grow in the mouth, throat, eyes and anus.”  In short, anyone who is sexually active is at risk for contracting this STD; those who have the highest risk are  sexually active teenagers, young adults and African Americans, who have the highest reports of  gonorrhea in the United States.

Since there is no cure immediately available, should the superbug make its way to America, your best bet is to practice safe sex.  This might mean asking a partner about his sexual background, even if you think you know him very well.  In fact, friends with benefits might inadvertently steer you wrong since you are less likely to be vigilant about wearing a condom with a friend or asking if a friend has been tested, leading to the potential spread of sexually transmitted diseases.  Regular checkups are also another smart way to avoid trouble with STDs.  If you are unsure where there is a health center in your area, this webpage will help you find one.


By FYI Health Writer on Jul 11, 2011


7 Pains You Should Never Ignore

See which painful symptoms could indicate a health emergency

Pay Attention to Your Body’s Signals

Usually a headache is just a headache, and heartburn is nothing more than a sign that your last meal didn’t agree with you. Except when they’re not.

Pain is your body’s way of telling you that something isn’t quite right. More often than not, you have some idea of what’s behind it. But when it comes on suddenly, lingers longer than usual, or just seems different, it calls for medical attention—and the sooner, the better. According to our experts, all of the following pain conditions should be considered red flags.


1. Chest pain

“If patients were to become well versed in what I think of as the subtle language of the heart, many could avoid needless worry and expense,” notes Arthur Agatston, MD, a preventive cardiologist. “Studies have found that women experience a wider range of heart attack symptoms than men do.” In Agatston’s experience, there are three good indicators that something isn’t right, and they can occur in either gender. They are chest pain that doesn’t go away, varied shortness of breath, and any upper body pain that hasn’t occurred before. If you experience any of these symptoms, he says, you should call your doctor or 911 immediately.

2. Severe head pain

Chances are, it’s a migraine. But if it isn’t accompanied by other migraine symptoms (such as a visual aura), sudden, severe head pain can signal a brain aneurysm. “A burst aneurysm can cause brain damage within minutes, so you need to call 911 immediately,” advises Elsa-Grace Giardina, MD, a cardiologist and director of the Center for Women’s Health at New York-Presbyterian Hospital/Columbia University Medical Center.

3. A throbbing tooth

It’s likely that the tooth’s nerve has become damaged, probably because the surrounding pearly white enamel is cracked or rotting away. Unless you get it patched up quickly, bacteria in your mouth can invade the nerve. And you definitely don’t want that breeding colony to spread throughout your body, says Kimberly Harms, DDS, a dentist outside St. Paul, Minnesota. If your tooth is already infected, you’ll require a root canal, in which the tooth’s bacteria-laden pulp is removed and replaced with plastic caulking material.

4. Sharp pain in your side

You may just need some Beano. But if you feel as if you’re being skewered in your right side, and you’re also nauseated and running a fever, you could have appendicitis. For women, another possibility is an ovarian cyst. Typically these fluid-filled sacs are harmless and disappear on their own. But if one twists or ruptures, it can cause terrible pain.

In both cases, you’re looking at emergency surgery. “If you don’t remove an inflamed appendix, it can burst,” says Lin Chang, MD, a gastroenterologist and co-director of the Center for Neurovisceral Sciences and Women’s Health at UCLA. A twisted cyst also needs to be removed right away, as it can block blood flow to the ovary within hours.

5. Abdominal discomfort with gas or bloating

For the past month, you’ve felt gassy and bloated more days than not, and it takes fewer slices of pizza to fill you up than it once did. If the symptoms are new, the worst-case scenario is ovarian cancer. In 2007, the Gynecologic Cancer Foundation released the first national consensus on early symptoms of this form of cancer: bloating, pelvic or abdominal pain, and difficulty eating. If you start experiencing them almost daily for more than two or three weeks, consider it a red flag. Schedule an appointment with your ob-gyn to discuss your symptoms.

6. Back pain with tingling toes

If you’ve just helped your cousin move into her new fourth-floor apartment, anti-inflammatories should banish the pain. But if they don’t work, hobble to an orthopedist. “One of your discs (the spongy rings that cushion the bones in your spine) could be pressing on the spinal nerve,” says Letha Griffin, MD, an orthopedist and sports medicine specialist in Atlanta. Without proper attention, you risk permanent nerve damage.

7. Leg pain with swelling

Your calf is extremely tender in one location, noticeably swollen, and red or warm to the touch. You might have deep-vein thrombosis (DVT), commonly known as a blood clot. Resist the urge to massage the area or to try walking off the pain. If the clot breaks free, it can travel through your veins up to your lungs and cut off your oxygen supply. Instead, see your doctor right away. He or she will do a CT scan or ultrasound to check for a DVT. If that’s what you have, you’ll need to take blood thinners—sometimes for up to a year—to dissolve it, says Suzanne Steinbaum, MD, director of women and heart disease for the Heart and Vascular Institute at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City.

Know the symptoms of a stroke

Stroke is the third leading cause of death in the United States and a leading cause of serious disability, according to the American Heart Association. If you or someone close to you is experiencing any of these symptoms, immediately call 9-1-1.

  • Sudden numbness or weakness of the face, arm or leg, especially on one side of the body
  • Sudden confusion, trouble speaking or understanding
  • Sudden trouble seeing in one or both eyes
  • Sudden trouble walking, dizziness, loss of balance or coordination
  • Sudden, severe headache with no known cause

From The List Maker’s Get-Healthy Guide (Rodale, 2010).
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What really going on?

Sigh! I can’t keep up with the news and “goings on” today at all!…One minute I was thinking of some choice words to describe that skinny, trashy chick who got away with killing her baby girl. I also had a scathing story to finish about Vybez Cartel and his new bleached out (walking dead) look. By the time I sit down to put pen to paper something new ALWAYS distracts me. I can’t keep up! We’re coming down to the end of a whirlwind summer where the expected and the unexpected has collided into a rage of change, and occurrences that are quite uncanny.

School has started for many, nothing new there. Throw in a 5.8 earthquake on the EAST coast and all of sudden schools are closed, wireless phone networks are down, the paranoid are praying to Mother Earth, while the tree huggers start their usual tirade.  What a summer!!!!

Ok, what else? Ahh…Rihanna visits her homeland Barbados to take part in the Crop Over festivities. A cute story,,nothing alarming there, UNTIL Rihanna wokking up and skinning up gets captured on camera for the whole world to see. Rihanna’s my girl. Despite my previous postings I appreciate her talent. Boy do I love her now! Her busted up fishnet stockings on the road got a definite nod of approval. Can’t hate on a carnival sister who buss up stockings on the road look just as bad as yours normally do (despite her money, fame and fortune). You go Rihanna! Hope to see you at the crop next year.

Hmmm..what else? I’m not done with my juxtapositions of this very weird summer. Let’s see what else is in the headlines? I’ll give my other girl, Kimmy Khardy a skip this time. Let her enjoy her recent wedding, and 2 million dollar ring  while it lasts. I’ll pounce in about 2 months when the marriage ends. Moving on. Mention must be made of band launchings, carnival gossip that I so love, costume registration tom-foolery, and skimpier costumes when u didn’t think they could get any skimpier! Nothing new there! Except that I AM NOT going, no plane ticket yet, no costume in my name and it’s almost September! What a travesty! Fortunately, my good sense (when I’m not lying in a fetal position, sobbing, and feeling sorry for myself) tells me that missing Carnival 2012 is for the best. With planes breaking in half, pilots watching porn on laptops mid-flight, and the curfew in Trinidad perhaps it is best that I give carnival a skip. Yes! Read my lips words..CURFEW in Trinidad! Shame and despair! Crime and killings are now being curbed by a 9pm to 5am curfew imposed by the Trinidad government.

I barely had time to sit and chew on that one because back on US soil we were being foretold, forewarned, (fore-panicked) that hurricane Irene is blustering about the Caribbean like a bedroom bully and is on her merry way to our shores. What REALLY going on? Where do you draw the line between staying calm and going into a complete state of panic. Time to pack a duffel bag of essentials to face the end of the world with a fistful of extra batteries and some canned goods? With everything that’s going on, I have to remind myself  that the only constant is change, and embracing change is what we are good at. We don’t really have a choice if another earthquake decides to hit. I hope it doesn’t. (I dont care who on the West coast laughing. That ‘ish’ was SCARY.)  I believe the random prophetic earthquake or hurricane only serves to keep us on our toes, there will always be crime and killings and not only in Trinidad! Things change sometimes, most things stay the same. Summer will morph into autumn, bills still have to be paid, kids and spouses will still drive you crazy, American Idol will still be on the air. Life moves on,,right?

How to Deal with Annoying People

Learn strategies for coping with eight of the most grating personalities

Adapted from article by Petra Guglielmetti Posted January 27, 2010 from

Ever feel like you have to bite your tongue, smile and nod just to get though your day? We asked etiquette experts for their best tips on how to deal with eight irksome personalities you’re bound to encounter often, whether on the job, in your family or out on the town.

The Close Talker

As portrayed in a memorable episode of Seinfeld, the close talker positions her face mere millimeters from yours, making it exceedingly difficult to carry on a conversation (you’re too focused on dodging spittle and avoiding direct inhalation of funky breath smells). When taking two steps back feels rude and obvious, here’s an alternative: “What I tend to do is take one leg and pivot it to the side so my body is no longer directly facing the person,” says Palm Beach–based etiquette expert Jacqueline Whitmore. If you’re at a crowded party, you can also hold your cocktail out from your body to encourage the space between you to gradually widen. Keep in mind that the close talker might simply be hard of hearing or from a different cultural background, notes San Antonio, Texas–based etiquette expert Diane Gottsman. “The norm in the U.S. is to speak at approximately arm’s length, or the distance of a handshake, but the definition of personal space varies among different cultures,” she says.

The Excessive Toucher

Whether she’s ducking in for an overly familiar hug too early in your relationship or distractingly stroking or jabbing your upper arm during conversation, this personality type also lacks a sense of personal boundaries. If you’re uncomfortable simply saying you’re not much of a touchy-feely type, the easiest way to dodge contact is to use props whenever possible, says Marblehead, Massachusetts–based etiquette expert Jodi R. R. Smith. “Try to sit down at a table opposite her, or hold something—a plate of food, even a child—to create a barrier between you and the other person.”

Debbie Downer

Saturday Night Live based an ongoing sketch on this familiar character, who possesses an uncanny knack for putting a negative spin on just about anything. To avoid letting her glass-half-empty outlook deflate your mood, pose questions in a strategic manner. “Instead of ‘How was your vacation?’ ask, ‘What was the best part of your vacation?’” Smith suggests. “And when the person is telling a tale of woe, listen, then ask, ‘So what did you learn from that?’” Whatever you do, resist the temptation to join her for an occasional group therapy session about office politics. “Complaining often begets complaining, so be sure not to chime in—not even a little!” Gottsman adds. Instead, she suggests saying that for 2010 you’ve decided to start looking on the bright side of things and that it feels great, so maybe she should join you.


Ms. Me, Me, Me

This personality type quickly steers any conversation back to her own ongoing personal dramas. Not only is this habit annoying, it breaks a basic rule of etiquette. “Being a good conversationalist really is all about asking the other person things about him or herself,” Whitmore notes. However, in this case, you should probably suspend that rule of thumb and cease asking questions about the other person once the conversation starts to feel boringly one-sided. “If you’re really good friends, you can steal a line from Bette Midler and jokingly say, ‘Enough about you. Let’s talk about me!’” Gottsman says. With others, you might try, “Nice chatting with you—next time remind me to fill you in on some of the things I’ve been up to!”


The Oversharer

This is the person in whose honor the popular term “T.M.I.” (too much information) was coined, so feel free to use it when the oversharer begins to reveal the gory details of her sex life, health issues and/or most recent dramatic bathroom episodes. Smith’s other suggestion: “Shh! Someone might overhear you!” Gottsman likes, “Sorry, this is a topic I wouldn’t even discuss with my own mother!”





The Constant Competitor

Making one-upmanship into an art form, this type reflexively negates even your most innocuous social updates with braggy accounts of her own (apparently much more impressive) accomplishments, purchases, travels and children. “This person probably acts this way because she is seeking attention and wants to feel important and included,” Whitmore says. Of course, that doesn’t make the behavior any less of a turnoff. Rather than feed into back-and-forth competition, let her next one-up put an end to your conversation. If, as you mention your trip to Napa Valley, she cuts in with a tale of Sicilian vineyards, say, “Oh, that’s nice,” and let the conversation awkwardly end. Maybe she’ll take a hint.


The Small-Talker

With this type, it’s exceedingly difficult to progress the conversation much past “How are you today?” She may make only generic comments about the weather or the nice house where the party is being held. A chronic small-talker remains firmly in that mode, even when you’ve known her for quite a while. “You can get real with this person if you know the right questions to ask,” Whitmore says. “Rather than simply ask what profession she is in, ask what the biggest challenge she’s having at work these days is.” Or, ask how she got into the profession in the first place and whether it’s what she always wanted to do. Or bring up a hobby of your own and ask what her recreational interests are.


The Smack Talker

There’s harmless gossip and then there’s the relentless, mean-spirited stream of misinformation that comes from this acquaintance’s lips. It’s better to avoid this person or risk being associated with her—especially in work situations. “You could say, ‘I don’t think it’s fair to talk about Missy without her here to give us her side of the story. Shall we call her?’” Gottsman says. “Most people don’t gossip to be mean but to make conversation,” Whitmore notes. “Why not politely help that person understand that her words could be hurtful or destructive in the current setting? You could always turn the tables and ask how she’d feel if someone was saying that about her.”

The Poorans file for asylum..Trinidad not safe!

Sweet sweet TNT! Oh how I love up meh country!,,,well I’ve heard and seen it all.  Hear this one! The Poorans travelled from Trinidad to the US in 2000 and was asked to leave (deported) in 2006 when it was found that they overstayed their visit (was living illegal) in the US. Did the Poorans tuck tail between leg and humbly move back to Trini? Oh no no no,,,not the Poorans! Apparently a move back to Trini was not safe since the Poorans, (according to the Poorans), belonged to an ethnic group that is rampantly being targeted and victimized in Trinidad. The Poorans believe that their status of “rich Indians who USED to live in the US” will subject them to violent acts such as kidnapping in Trinidad. The Poorans appealed to the US Board of Immigration Appeals and a US Court that they should be allowed to remain in the states under the Convention Against Torture. Under this convention, asylum is granted if you belong to a protected class. The Poorans cited several incidents in Trinidad to demonstrate that rich Indians are not safe (talk about desperation), and went as far as stating that the crime situation had become so terrible in Trinidad that authorities had to enlist the US F.B.I.  The BIA turned that argument around on the Poorans, and concluded that they failed to demonstrate a well-founded fear of future persecution because ‘the Government IS attempting to fight the criminal activity’ by calling the FBI for assistance. Sorry Poorans (I like saying the word Pooran)…NICE TRY but come again…,they not buying it! According to the judges, although the country is beset by high levels of crime the Poorans will NOT get asylum to stay in the states. If you scared Poorans, build a big wall around your house and stick some broken bottles on top it like everybody else. We also have some VERY talented welders in Trinidad! Give them boys some metal and a blowtorch and they’ll conjure up exquisite window-covering art (burglar proofing) that will hopefully make you feel safe when they throw your A$$ on a Trinidad bound plane back HOME!…,145152.html

Our scandal ridden beauty queen hits the Runway

Before you call me a hater…I didn’t pen her “the scandal ridden beauty queen”, I simply quoted from the article I read this morning. Yes, folks have done their research ..poor Anya Ayoung-Chee’s sex tape scandal has resurfaced now that she is a contender for the upcoming season nine of Project Runway. If you don’t know who Anya is, she won Miss Trinidad and Tobago Universe 2008 and went on to represent our lovely twin isle in the 2008 Miss Universe pageant.

She’s unfortunately more known for what happened after those happy times. Her celebrity boyfriend STOOOOOPIDLY sent in his laptop for service with a very, very, VERY salty video of Anya, another chick, and himself doing the nasty and then some embedded on it’s hard drive. The video was hacked and posted for the world to see. Anya took the hit in stride. I recall seeing her the year after in my carnival band with a big smile on her face ignoring the fools who pointed her out to each other whispering “look the girl from the sex tape.” Like I said, she get some serious points for continuing on with her life and not succumbing to shame.

Also to her credit, she sure did exhibit some skills in that video. Saying that she’s multi-talented is an understatement. Speaking of talent, I took a gander at some of her fashion designs. I believe she has a great chance of going far in the show although her skills with a piece of cloth don’t matter to me  none. It’s enough that she’s West Indian (yes I’m biased) and that she’s bringing some Caribbean flavor to Project Runway. The Examiner article did mention Anya’s other accomplishments such as her charity work. so good for them.

I plan to tune into every episode and cheer her on throughout. As for the sex tape scandal, my girl Kim Kardashian will be a celebrity judge on the show. Kim rose to fame with her own tape scandal. Any publicity is good publicity right? WRONG!, not everyone is a Kim or an Anya. This is for the fame and glory hounds, please don’t go making a rash of nasty video tapes in hopes of finding notoriety to promote wherever it is you trying to reach in life.  And please, wipe your hard drives before your business get put on the street. Whatever happen to the days of hiding your freaky tapes in the recesses of your closet in an old shoe box or under some old jeans never to be seen again? It’s even easier now to hide a flash drive or a SD card if you really want to store the memories…not saying I myself have any such items hidden anywhere in my house….I’m just saying….